Dear Boys

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Dear Davis & Dylan,

I know that we have had a tough week. But I want you to know that I am not your friend, I am your Mommy. I am determined to do my best as a Mommy and raise you to be wonderful husbands and fathers. No matter what it takes.



I overheard you guys complaining about me the other night and I want you to know that it didn't hurt my feelings. I've complained about you to your daddy a lot this week too!



I'm sorry that I have to teach you to responsibility.



I'm sorry that you choose to learn the hard way about the primary principle of cause and effect - in this case known as consequences to decisions.


I'm not quite sure where you got the idea that:
  • Life is fair.
  • Life is easy.
I certainly don't believe either of those statements. Life is hard work and completely unjust!



I know it's tough that when you make life harder for Mom, you then have to do some of her chores to make life easier for Mom - but that's just how it works in our house.


"Tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it." I hope that we don't have to repeat the entire proceess over tomorrow, but if we do, I'll love you no matter what. It will be hard to LIKE you, but I'll always love you.



Love you when you're choosing right and wrong,

Mommy

Comments

Are You Serious! said…
♥ You just said everything that I feel right now! My kids have been beyond naughty today! Thank you for your post!
February 16, 2008 at 10:38 PM
Michelle said…
Good for you! The consequences are much smaller at six than sixteen!
February 16, 2008 at 10:54 PM
Wendi said…
Really? So it's not just my house huh?
February 17, 2008 at 12:06 AM
Crazymamaof6 said…
ah the life of the mother. not a friend. love that. sounds like a little love and logic action happening at your house. it is cheaper at the current price. way to go ! keep up the good work!
February 17, 2008 at 2:00 AM
Rebecca said…
Hang in there girl. You are doing a wonderful job with your boys. It will get easier in a few years, especially with Drake getting more independent and self sufficient. In the mean time, nap all you can to make up for those sleepless nights.
February 17, 2008 at 12:11 PM
Anonymous said…
Wow, tough love is tough.
February 17, 2008 at 8:55 PM
The Collingwood Family said…
You've said it much nicer than I usually do :) You are such a good example to me! By the way, I LOVE LOVE LOVE your guest bathroom!!!
-love, Michalann
February 17, 2008 at 10:44 PM
The Collingwood Family said…
You've said it much nicer than I usually do :) You are such a good example to me! By the way, I LOVE LOVE LOVE your guest bathroom!!!
-love, Michalann
February 17, 2008 at 10:44 PM
Jen said…
You are a great "Mean Mom"! Loved the post.
February 18, 2008 at 9:23 AM
ummmhello said…
Love your letter :) Some days I explain these things to my older son, only to hear the two of them complaining about how tough I am 5 minutes later. *sigh*
February 18, 2008 at 2:42 PM
Melissa said…
Love this post! What a wonderful mom you are and they will thank you for it later!!!
I completely feel ya! Keep it up, it will all work out and they will learn. (at least that's what I tell myself)
February 18, 2008 at 2:47 PM
Chanda said…
Awe - that made me cry a little. You are a great mom. I love that last pic!!!
February 18, 2008 at 5:35 PM
Aunt Debbi/kurts mom said…
Thankful I am not the only "mean mom"
February 18, 2008 at 9:13 PM
jenhatch said…
I would have LOVED to overhear the conversation between Davis and Dylan, I'm sure it was highly amusing and hilarious!!
February 18, 2008 at 9:24 PM
onehm said…
I love this post. I am going to have to archive it so that I can come back again and again to read it. It really is so wonderful! Thanks for sharing!
February 19, 2008 at 12:10 AM
Laurie said…
This is one of my favorite post ever. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings so we can read them. Way to go!
February 21, 2008 at 11:08 AM
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